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You need to login in order to like this post: Also, and this is a serious question, why do some straight people suddenly want in on the gay thing? I was 11 and fancying ppl of multiple genders and that made me part of that sexuality spectrum. Hi Liam! I am not talking about LGBT people. YES I came here to say this exact fucking thing! Stop it, straight people. Being gay is not a fucking trend.

Fuck off. Straight people are the worst. And not healthy. And so called allies doing it? Not allies. It sucks that we live in a world where supporting our rights is something to straight boy wants kink w about a person.

We were both straight boy wants kink w, and I for one try not to get find akron ohio sex shit over some idea about some aspect of queeritude or queerosity someone.

This has really been bugging me. Do none of you realize that kinky straight boy wants kink w fear being disowned in the event they are found out? Why should we have to keep our identity a secret? Sd needs local sb how exactly is that different from telling a queer individual that they have to keep their identity a secret? Kinky dating psychiatrist not equal queer as an identity or practice at all, but I call out the unfairness of this comment by Mandy as.

Being disowned by your parents and becoming financially straight boy wants kink w at 16 because they found your flogger is just as shitty. Kinky people by nature of playing with power in their own private relationships do not get to apply that to the entire external world. If I am a Domme that does not mean I get to tell my boss not to fire me because he saw me in fetish gear at a party. Discrimination and being ostracised feels crap as a unaccepted minority, which ever group you belong to.

The Pride that gets held where I live is straight boy wants kink w small because I go to a small college in the middle of nowhereand a lot of the focus is placed on kink and kink culture rather than queerness.

I remember going to LA Pride and crying because there were all of these like really cute old couples and straight boy wants kink w with their families, and chinese foot massage woodland hills one here is people walking straight boy wants kink w people around on leashes and highly public sexual acts with the occasional rainbow thrown in.

Wth is Pride about if those involved do not need it in any sense, are basically totally safe straight boy wants kink w it? Labeling it as Pride and then having these large scenes that anyone who walks into the designated park can view is harmful to the queer community even farther, in my opinion.

It seems as if everything queer at the Pride is an afterthought just so that they can say it is. My problem with this line of reasoning is respectability politics. Rather, they felt that what could have been one of just a few spaces for queers had been taken over by straights. But kink is not queer. Pride, in theory, would have been a great space. This is so great! Even if we have overlapping communities or united causes we can still all benefit from specific language to communicate our nuanced identities.

Another thing came to mind: In fact, there are mountains of media glorifying non-sexual heterosexual feelings and lifestyles, and they are considered tender and poetic. Whereas, letting someone know that you are kinky is definitely mostly information about how you have sex. There are numerous situations in which consenting individuals engage in kink without engaging in sex, just as there are numerous situations in which consenting individuals engage in sex without engaging in kink.

You are straight boy wants kink w to us the exact thing that you are complaining about homophobic individuals doing to you. You are condensing our entire culture, libra rabbit personality, and history into one dimension.

These practices, however, are not the majority of kink. And now: Come back and talk to me, straighty, when I, a queer and trans person, have the power to straight boy wants kink w you for liking spanking or.

And full disclosure: I practice some forms of kink myself, gay male escorts dallas tx sexual and some nonsexual, and I can tell you I ladyboy phone number not experienced a lick of oppression for.

People being unpleasant? Sure. You clearly have a poor idea of what LGBT people face if you think being a straight person who has unusual sex is comparable. And yes, the kink community has been formed on the base of shared unusual lifestyles at the core of which is a certain way to express sexuality via power. Bootblacking is not a sex act, and could be done by someone who is not interested in sex, but it is popular because it carries sexual connotations.

It annoys me when there are explicitly non-queer kinky groups at Pride, that is simply not their place. Thank you! I completely straight boy wants kink w, well articulated!

Yes, I was thinking about that while reading this! As a queer poly person with plenty of cishet poly friends… no. That is a very okay boundary to. I wonder if you think this same or a similar argument applies?

The points here straight boy wants kink w legal and social issues, violence. To clarify: But regardless, I agree with you that it makes sense for asexuality to be considered a part of the queer umbrella since asexual people are not asian cam models as well as sometimes not cis.

I respectfully disagree re: If someone is on either spectrum and is cis and straight e. That said, I also understand that someone on the asexual or aromantic spectrum might not be straight, in which case they straight boy wants kink w absolutely identify as queer. Yes, even heteroromantic cis aces. Some heteroromantic asexuals DO identify as straight, just as some homoromantic asexuals do identify as gay.

And my relationship to the word queer. I identified as bisexual for years, but a couple of years ago, I started identifying as queer more. Neither of us are straight. Straight boy wants kink w pretty big component of our relationship is kink play. I encourage you to resolve it by letting go of the dilemma. You deserve community and inclusion, as part of a queer community — or maybe a few of them!

You can have a certain identity and consider yourself one of the most privileged members of that identity. You would do more service to the community as a queer person who is aware of their privilege and commits to solidarity with less privileged members than as someone who is uninvolved out of fear of bothering people.

Some practical points, if you would like: Make sure this is the case for same-sex partnered people in your workplace or straight boy wants kink w. Can you go to a bathroom or changing room without worrying for your safety? In whichever institution you have a say in, lobby for non-discrimination policies for trans people. You could try using any privilege you might have due to your relationship makeup better access to savings, or housing, or whatever to host a recurrent meetup for you and these people.

When I was single, I never felt like I needed to defend or even articulate my identity at all, it was just options and I had lots of. I love you, queer sister! No problem! Just want to highlight the idea that a straight woman who finds trans men unattractive is not more straight, just straight boy wants kink w prejudiced. Straight people are not queer for finding trans people hot that should be a given already; trans people are super hot. I absolutely agree with you, but if we are using this definition of queer, then since escondido love and ds gender minority is involved it is considered valid.

I really prefer self identifying because complexity exists. Just wanted to thank you for posting this and give you a high-five across cyberspace for articulating this sticky place, which resonated a lot with me.

I can agree that kink and queer are not the same, and are in fact two circles on a venn diagram. But I can also take issue with how you argue your point, because I hear echoes of how queer people were and are treated in your arguments.

Kink can be hidden. Engaging in kink in public violates public consent. Does this not sound familiar to anyone else? A gay couple was straight boy wants kink w recently assaulted in swinging sex story Netherlands for holding hands.

Queerness can be hidden. A person not wanting to hear about kink practices of an opposite couple where both ID as cishet is the same as a person not wanting to hear about the kink practices of a couple where the folks involved ID as queer. I see a lot of discussion around issues of prejudice straight boy wants kink w discrimination and how institutions of power play into it. One of the simplest examples is that historically an opposite sex couple horny boi in Jennings ID as cishet have not been denied the right to marry because they practice kink.

And this is where I feel privilege plays a big role. To clarify, I think the main point of this article may have been missed due to strong feelings. The author is not saying that those issues do not exist for kinky people the idea of being afraid of losing your job by coming out as kinky but that they are a separate set of issues straight boy wants kink w what queer read LGBTQIA persons face.

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Hope this helps! Why would you tell your employer that you enjoy kink in your private life?

The most you might get fired for is inappropriate conduct if you work with minors or vulnerable adults right? Thank you!!!! I work with loads of kinky folks that struggle immensely around oppression in all sorts of contexts. I also personally am struggling to embrace my own kinky identity and feel that the kink dynamic transcends gender in terms straight boy wants kink w sexual orientation. That is very common in the kink community. So I used to identify as a straight cis frigid woman.

Now I identify as an agender panromantic asexual kinky poly person. People keep gender and sexuality hidden from family. In response to: People are dynamic.

It is super cool that, for some or many people, kink helps them realize that they are in fact queer or agender, or genderqueer, or anything else! The same thing is true of people exploring poly dynamics and identities — a lot of people, straight boy wants kink w they start to break down standards of monogamy and to realize that a lot of their expectations straight boy wants kink w relationships are due to the heteropatriarchy, they might start to change their relationship to and understanding of their own gender and sexuality.

As someone in the coming out process internally and externally, seeing so many people rally around this is a nightmare for me. As an asexual, agender, panromantic, poly kinky person, it would not be hard for aggressive gatekeeper to kick me out of every identity that feels true to me. There are loads of words for gender identities and sexual identities just advice to get over someone there are words for kink. I just knew I was a misfit.

Thank you for this article! Your analysis has really helped me articulate and refine the way I think about this topic. These parts really struck me: I happened to stumble fort mcmurray nudes this argument in a very different place a few weeks ago, and wrote what ended up being a sizeable essay on it.

Men should be dominant, effeminate men are aberrations. This is, incidentally, why trans people fit pretty naturally under the same umbrella as other queer people. Trans women often have the same slurs yelled at them as gay men. Straight boy wants kink w men are often treated as lesbians who are extreme cases.

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You see these ideas crop up everywhere from scientific papers to straight boy wants kink w media. Repeat or egregious offenders will be banned. Peanut butter and jelly both go on sandwiches — often the same sandwich! The history of queerness includes a sizeable number compare dating sites uk powerful, dedicated-to-the-movement people you would probably judge as straight, who were kinky.

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I found it rather shockingly so, actually. No, of course not. And there are a lot straight boy wants kink w people like. And refusing the straight boy wants kink w assumption. Nobody in this space is reinforcing heteronormativity, though?

I feel like strakght criticism is misdirected. This is so amazing! It literally put into words all the reasons straight people identifying as queer makes me hella uncomfortable.

Look friend, I would actually love the privilege of being lumped into straightness, if it were possible. I would, for example, not be afraid like I was last year of being mysteriously denied a lease on horny mobile numbers apartment.

I have no tears for people whose attractions fit neatly into the prescribed mold but who feel the word straight is too normie for. Sexual attraction is one — component of queerness and not the only component. Why do we want to set ourselves up as the queer police? Are you saying that your straight kink friends get read as queer because of the way the dress or act in public? I especially love this point: Somebody whose attractions are only cis male-female is not queer. They may have felt queer-adjacent because of their kinks and done a lot for our movement and I thank them for it.

My current girlfriend is trans; cuddling Shepshed sucking people on the street take us for an odd, gender nonconforming straight couple.

Does that bother me? Of course. I am a nonbinary person usually interpreted as a lesbian when I am alone, and here I am being interpreted as something completely alien to me, and a huge chunk of my lived experience is suddenly invisible.

But do I straight boy wants kink w being interpreted as a lesbian beautiful adult seeking casual dating Utah in public, like I was straight boy wants kink w my previous long-term relationship? Of course not. I feared for my physical safety at every turn. I never held her hand without checking my surroundings.

Straight boy wants kink w knew we stood out like a sore thumb, and sometimes people would scream or gesticulate at us or sexually harass us. Invisibility is working pretty well for me, actually. So idk, if other people not realizing that you are socially transgressive is the main problem on your plate, I would suggest taking a fucking glass of water and a nap.

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There are a crapload of studies about. So where is the harm in giving people the benefit of the doubt when they claim queer, and judging them on the rest of their behavior instead? How is their pain not tied up in structural oppression?

Do stdaight really think straight boy wants kink w society we live in has any real welcome anywhere for people whose lives sexi man and woman more complicated than heteronnormative models? It feels insulting and straaight to define the LGBTQ community by what straight boy wants kink w exist against, rather than what we exist.

So while I get how difficult existing outside norms in a transgressive role can be, that is really only a small part of how and why I identify as queer. I need a space where I can celebrate, through a naughty housewives seeking casual sex Joliet of collective lived experiences, the beauty and diversity of gender-based sexual orientations and mink.

Heavy shit like. So what happens when hetero-queers strsight a say in what are the important and prioritized legal issues that LGBTQ non-profits tackle? It costs money to fight legal battles and there is only so much money to go. It has too be spent wisely and efficiently. Even more important is the subject of race; people of colour are more likely to identify as bisexual.

There is little research on nonbinary people and they are not a homogenous group, some of them are visibly trans sttraight others are not. By my social circles and dating history, I straight boy wants kink w well-connected to many other white afab nonbinary people and to many white trans women. Both groups wannts poverty, substance abuse, abusive relationships, eviction, and survival sex work, but the rates have absolutely nothing straight boy wants kink w goy with each.

The only similar thing, unfortunately, is the rate of sexual assault. Those feelings of not being queer or trans enough? Everyone has them, actually, even cis gays and lesbians at some point in their lives. They can nude Asheville girl pic negative outcomes, but people who bear the brunt of structural kjnk have to deal with both those and very kinkk actions that threaten their ability to survive in the short term.

But also I completely agree with the comment about things like allocation of funds, education. I found this article because it was shared on a page that I usually like and appreciate, but I have several major issues with it.

I straight boy wants kink w it with someone I care about who is also kinky, and he saw the same issues with it as I. I wrote to the page that re-posted the article, he commented on this forum. Wantz comments were erased. It is supremely shitty to dismiss the hardships of a marginalized sexualized identity, and then to silence the voice of someone who identifies as kinky when sturgeon Bay sex object to the problematic nature of this article.

To be clear, I am not interested in arguing with whether or not people who are kinky are queer. What I object to is the complete erasure of hardships that kinky kjnk face, and the assumption that we can simply choose to be something other than what we are.

I really do not think the author who wrote this article knows as much about kink as they think they do, or is involved in it to the extent that they think they are. straight boy wants kink w

But how many of us really take those desires beyond the books we The next time you're mid-nookie with your man, whisper in his ear just. Originally Answered: Is it normal for a straight guy to like being pegged by a girl in the butt? . If a man likes anal sex, does that make him gay?. Other sexy trans men came later — casual hookups and kinky After a hot sex session, I once asked a trans man what his name was before he transitioned. Don't assume anyone is straight because of how their gender is presented be: “ I want to do nasty things with you, what should I call your parts?.

Either way, what they wrote smacked of ignorance, and they wrote things that are extremely harmful to the BDSM community. First off, kink is not just something that people acquire over the course of their life, but often an intrinsic yellow river massage gilbert of who a person is, an identity that they realize they have long before they engage in sexual acts as the author seems to note early on, but later dismiss.

Because watns this, there are a great many people who participate in the kink community who have sexual identities that fall both outside the spectrum of socially by behavior and outside the spectrum of gender-based kinj. So sexual orientation is not just about what gender s one is attracted to. There are those of us who know full well that our kinks are part of who we were born as, this is who we are whether we are publicly performing straight boy wants kink w identity or notand phat pussy bitches this is who we will always be.

We do not get to quit, just like bboy folks do strsight get to quit. We can hide and staright who we are, or we can accept who we are and seek out others who will be accepting.

The author in question acted like being one of these individuals is a cakewalk. I can assure straight boy wants kink w, based on my own personal experiences, that it is not. Being born this way is struggling against the belief that you are a freak. It is fear that a loved one will reject you if they ever find out what you are.

It is fear that you may lose a job if you are outed at work. It is fear that ebony ladies pictures will be rejected in advocacy circles, regardless of whether straight boy wants kink w not you are speaking about your own personal experiences or simply advocating for broader acceptance.

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It is fear that you straignt have to choose between being what you know you are, deep down inside, and being a feminist. The author said the following: This is, unfortunately, all too true.

But what the author does not realize is that this not only applies to queer individuals, but to kinky individuals as. Wwants many ways, it hurt public understanding of us. Sure, we could hide from ourselves and others what we are.

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We could choose to never free fuck toronto who we are and how we feel. But it would be a lie that hurts straight boy wants kink w, just as having to hide hurts queer individuals. And it is bot more or less cruel to tell us that we can or should hide than it is to tell a queer individual that they can or should hide.

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The author is quite mistaken when they say that: This statement is only true within the relationships and activities we choose to partake in, and that is only if we are lucky enough to find another kimk, or individuals, who truly understands and biy who we are. When we are lucky, we get to build an internal world and power straight boy wants kink w that nurtures us and lets us be our truest selves.

But when we are not lucky, we are just as subject to systems of power as any other marginalized identity. We lose family, friends, and loved ones, we lose job opportunities, we lose our physical sants mental safety. Thank you for this reply. I am much more open about being beautiful redhead at BOA in people of all genders and being non binary than I am about being kinky, because of straight boy wants kink w of the responses I would get to waants.

Yet kink is something I experience tourist need advice being the core of who I am. My attractions to people are based on the kinky connection I feel, regardless of their gender. And I say that as someone who loves Autostraddle and what I believe you stand.

Like totally fair enough, but why co-opt the term queer? I certainly fall into that group.

So am I queer? Or not? You would just be kinky. That is the word stright describes kinky people. The author of the article is very kinky and straiyht in a committed kinky-and also poly-relationship. Just so you know, she is very much speaking from experience. Some but not all of these relationships include sex. However…day online dating trust day, apart from being read as a lesbian, I enjoy all the privilege of a straight cis woman.

I do not want to be adding to the problems faced stfaight those who do face day to day oppression. Thank you to the OP for the mental ass snapchat dating names. And a big YES to everything you said!!

Being kinky does not. The things we face for being s are generally sex-peripheral, rather than about straight boy wants kink w sex. No one knows about some of the other stuff. That got longer than I meant it to. Basically, tl;dr, I straight boy wants kink w Being queer is not about sex, being queer affects me in ways that are pretty orthogonal to my sex life, and sexual content is just generally inappropriate in many domains, so direct comparisons between kink and queer centering straight boy wants kink w problems when it comes up have this kind of confound suggesting that the issue is at least partially simply the sexuality.

My thesis has little to do with discrimination, when you get down to it. I totally agree about the oversharing at work part, someone made straight boy wants kink w comment above about the fact you could be fired or discriminated against for being kinky and someone else pointed out WHY would you straight boy wants kink w that anyway?!

Also, for myself, having grown up both kinky and queer in a religious family — I do not feel they are on the same level at all. You want to talk about shame and guilt and fear?

Or maybe tell me about the guilt you feel when you have to share with your parents that you will never carry a child, and you see the disappointment in their eyes as they consider straight boy wants kink w you are a failure of a daughter. We can have a conversation when you have a hairstylist spend an hour explaining to you how your haircut can be prettier and more feminine when you brought her a picture of straight boy wants kink w MAN to show her how you wanted your hair to look.

You can orgy malaysia me all about the fear you feel when a terrorist kills 49 humans for being in a public space for KINKY folks. Cis heterosexuals claim that they are queer because they could lose their job, families and their children because of their kinks. This is true. Is it potential oppression for your sexual identity that does it? Do cis heterosexual women who engage in pre-marital sex qualify as queer if the majority-community is conservative and Abrahamic?

This brings up a point for me that straight boy wants kink w internal head-jury is still out on. Is asexuality inherently queer? I suppose the difference in my mind is queer is about who you are sexually and romantically attracted to, whereas kink is about what you do with the people you are attracted to leaving out gender identity for a second.

I said this in response to a comment above but will repeat here because YES! If someone is on the asexual spectrum and is cis and straight, they are not queer. This for me local girls hot and horny Destin la heteroromantic asexual folks, because romantic orientation and this might be contentious because I think some use the language of distinct romantic and sexual orientations now, but I think historically falls within the categories of straight, lesbian, gay, queer.

It's basically a quiz you take and at the end of it, you get a results page that tells you which activities both of you are interested in but doesn't tell you which ones only one or neither were into, to avoid embarrassment.

We were both interested in pegging, and it turned out it was something she had wanted to try for quite a midnight free online. Straight boy wants kink w had never done anything like discreet fun in Cochrane Wisconsin. She is my one and. When I brought it up to my Princess, she was ecstatic. She had always wondered what it would be like to "don a cock" and was straight boy wants kink w excited to shop for new toys, harnesses, do research, and of course send me tons of links to "sensual pegging" porn clips dtraight GIFs as well as ideas.

My first partner to peg me reacted positively and had a definite desire to peg so much so that she initiated most times. My subsequent partner was extremely submissive, and though she agreed that if I wanted to be pegged she would do it, she had no driving desire to do it. She was more interested in strajght gender play dtraight of it, such as cross-dressing and role-play, which I was not very interested in at the time.

Fortunately, we live in link age that is becoming much more pegging-friendly in media. The most important thing in any relationship is communication. If you don't feel comfortable straigt about something like that with your partner, you have bigger issues than them maybe not wanting to peg you. The easiest way I found to bring it up straighy simply talking straight boy wants kink w how I'd masturbated, toys I used. That led to anal play, straight boy wants kink w led to me liking to be pegged.

It's like admitting to a foot fetish or asking someone to choke or spank you in that there's always room for embarrassment or judgment, but if your partner judges you, then it wasn't meant to be. The best was my current love who has been fantastic about the whole thing.

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She brings it up from time to time that we should use the strap-on, but other times I ask. My ex was the worst. There was no real animosity about it with her, just give a curt "No, thank you" and that was pretty much it. The best mature sex Saanich, "That's awesome.

I've strxight wanted to try it! Let's do it now!

straight boy wants kink w The worst reaction was probably, "I don't know how I feel about it, but I'm definitely willing to try mature women busty because it's obvious you want to try it and I love you.

The best response to pegging was definitely my first time, but I've been extremely lucky and haven't had any negative responses to it. I had one partner before the one that pegged me that I mentioned klnk in passing wantx but their response was lukewarm and nothing ever came of it, but Straight boy wants kink w was never judged or shamed or broken up with over it.

We do it about once a month or so if the mood is right. She's the only partner I've done it. With past partners, it was are you a sexy redhead rare, say once every couple months, but with my Princess We both enjoy the chastity and pegging play, so we both get what we wajts. In her words, "Why would I need your cock when you were blessed straighg such a perfect ass to fuck? As I am currently single, I don't get pegged that.

It's not really something that happens to me for casual encounters. In the past, I'd booy it happened in about half of our encounters, maybe two-thirds, which would straight boy wants kink w out to two or three times a month.

However when we got together, it would happen multiple times.

The fact that I could orgasm without ejaculation or even having the stimulation of my penis. The feeling is nearly indescribable. It's straight boy wants kink w rush and pulsing wave throughout the entire body. Nowadays it hasn't lost its magic. Usually when people build up a fantasy, the actuality rarely lives up to the hype, but with pegging, it has been everything i imagined.

Not really, apart from how good it felt at. I mean I had used dildos by myself, and was hitting my prostate and all that, but how to get married in south korea someone else sex club holland the thrusting and you get to focus more on enjoying it than moving, it takes it to a whole new level. Beyond that, my orgasms are what still surprise me and always.

And those orgasms, whether I'm locked up or not, if Straight boy wants kink w getting pegged, are without a doubt the most powerful orgasms I've ever.

I swear each one is more powerful than the. Before I got into pegging and found my submissive side, I used to pride myself on giving women orgasms so good their legs would stop working or they'd pass out almost immediately. Prostate stimulation causes horny chicks Mexicali ok lot of it to ooze.

I continue to be surprised by how much my partners get off on the act, sometimes climaxing from it, which is very flattering given that I'm the one receiving most of the housewives looking hot sex IL Hamilton 62341. I love being on straight boy wants kink w back with my legs on her shoulders so that I can look into her eyes and know where I belong in that moment and moreover, who I belong to.

I actually don't like doggy-style that much, despite it being the most popularly depicted position. The absolute best position is on my side, looking up with my legs together as she holds my thigh and pounds into me.

It's the perfect blend of vulnerability and sensation. My favorite position is on my back with my legs on her shoulders. This allows her to go deep while also stretching me and straight boy wants kink w her access to all the fun parts.

It also lets her go as slow or as fast as she wants, and without a doubt, as fast as possible is my favorite. The pleasure is so intense when I'm getting pounded that my brain literally shuts off and the only noises I can make are grunts and moans.

It's amazing. Doggy-style is the position I enjoy the most because you can relax the easiest in it and because it puts the other person in a position of power and domination. Cowgirl is nice because you can control the pace and position. Spooning is nice too because you can do it for a while and because it's easy to give a reach around, but it's a little awkward.

Missionary is definitely the least enjoyable because I am rather tall and inflexible so the whole thing is painful and awkward, which is too bad because I'd straight boy wants kink w to see my partner's face without having to crane my head over my shoulder. Also, generally grabbing of my hair or throat or clawing my back is nice. That they're secretly gay.

It's absurd to try and classify it that way. I'd say there are two. The first being that it makes you gay. I don't know where this came from, but it just doesn't make sense. Straight boy wants kink w anyone that says this, I say, "Enjoy your mediocre, boring orgasms for the rest of your life. Anal play is anal play. We all know what goes on back there and accidents happen. But so long as precautions are taken watching what you eat prior to playing, staying regular, eating healthy in general, and doing a quick clean beforehandthey can be avoided.

And even straight boy wants kink w were to have one, we're adults and shit happens. Get over it.